Sunday, October 21, 2007

Decisions in life

It not the choices, but the decisions that we make in our life that decide our fate! Luck is an excuse people use when they want to get rid of the guilt of making a wrong decision. Who we are is who we decide to be.

I had a choice to take up a science field, but i decided to choose business instead. I had a choice to go to one of the top 10 universities, I decided to go to 50th one. I had a choice to buy a Sony laptop, I choose Toshiba. I had the choice to drink, I choose not to. I had a choice to keep my heart safe, but I decided to take the risk of a heartbreak.

People often take decisions and then regret them - Why? There is no point. A decision made with careful thought or on the spot, is unchangable once executed. Regretting it or blaming the circumstances does no good to anyone. Unlike a program installed on the computer, a decision can only be modified or repaired - but never uninstalled.

What to do? - Live it. You made your choice, now live it to the fullest. If you think its a wrong one, modify your ways and repair the damage rather than sit and sulk about it. I have made some decisions in my life which were not necessarily "wrong", but were not exactly good ones. The way I dealt with them was to modify the results of the decision. To illustrate what I mean, I did bad on an exam. Here I had a choice to study hard or relax and rely on past knowledge to skim through the exam. I chose the latter. Owing to mounting frustration and behaving like an average teenager, I blamed it on the circumstances. I removed my frustration on my mom and blamed her for being the one responsible and not waking me up on time to study for the paper. This did not help but made me feel worst as somwhere my conscious was full of guilt. The way I modified my bad decision was to go and apologise to mum and take full responsibility of doing bad on the paper. I also assured her that I would do better on the next one to make up for it and that is exactly what I did. 1 good decision can help modify or repair the damage done by a bad decision

The example was cheesy but its true. Bad experiences in life, when modified, can help make better human beings. I have become a better person than before because I easily apologise and take full responsibility for my mistakes. I may still have that C on my paper - but I sure learnt a valuable lesson.